Since when did no mean yes? Since this is apparently still an issue today, let’s break it down in the most logical sense. Yes: a sign for going, green, a nod of the head from up to down, a smile even, and sometimes the casual thumbs-up. No: a sign for stopping, yielding if you need to hear it one more time, but that should never be the case, red, a nod from left to right or vice versa, a frown, and that thumbs-down has to mean something undesirable. Being categorized as a victim is the worst feeling, many of us have been there once, maybe twice. No one wants to be the one blamed and no one wants to get hurt.
Often time’s people try to blame the victim for the rape. They’ll say something ignorant like, “She was drunk, and she had it coming!” Yes, because she had a sign that said, “Please, scum of Ohio, rape me!” How is the one or many that forced themselves on a girl and took videos and laughed because the victim was unconscious, not being questioned? How is it that a girl passes out that makes her an easy target? Here’s some food for thought: what if that girl was dead the whole time, surely necrophilia is something to laugh about and show to all your guy friends.
My boyfriend is Puerto Rican, and when we first began our relationship things were done with mutual understanding, however, now that I spend a lot of time staying at his house, with him and his mom, I’ve realized that he expects that I will accommodate to this socialized role of woman: the “house wife”. We would constantly argue about why he feels that I should always cook for him, make his plate, wash his clothes, and ultimately tend to his every nurturing need.
So, my violation of a gendered role consisted of deciding not to cook, clean, or perform that “role” he ‘assumes’ of me. This ultimately forced me to separate myself from him physically, until I felt that he understood that if I did things for him, it was only because I care for him and expect the same in return, not because I felt that it was what I am supposed to do as a woman.
It is remarkable to realize the amount of advertisements one consumer can be exposed to in a single day. The sad thing about this is the majority of these ads have a subliminally harmful effect on consumers—especially women. Most people find it almost impossible to name an advertisement that positively influences women, but people must not realize that NIKE ads seem to always make sure to portray and influence women in a positive aspect.
Sex is predominantly the image that advertisers seem to portray. Women are usually half-clothed, and some of the ads don’t even make sense with the product it was trying to sell. However when it comes to the Nike Women campaign, I feel that these ads are very empowering for women. The most recent ads pick a part of the body that women typically hate, and the ad tells an empowering story about that body part. For example, the ad titled“Thunder Thighs”does not show any picture other than a picture of the body area being described. The ad reads,“I have Thunder Thighs and that’s a compliment because they are strong and toned and muscular, and though they are unwelcome in the petite section, they are cheered on in marathons. Fifty years from now I’ll bounce a grandchild on my thunder thighs and then I’ll go out for a run”(Nikewomen.com). This ad is very empowering for women because not only is this ad addressing the issue of larger thighs in the present, but in the future as well.